Finally, hello, welcome and hooray!
After becoming too ashamed of the state of my previous blog to draw attention to it by actually posting, I've finally migrated myself over here to rid myself of that excuse. Now we shall see if an excuse is all it was!
I just spent the whole day argueing with template designer about showing my imported background, instead of playing with my LO. But the deed is done now. Stupidest fix imaginable; I'd disabled the mobile site and after spotting someone else on the forum with the same problem had found it magically fixed after they enabled the mobile site I tried it. - Taaa daaa!
I've decided to join in late with the 31 days linky party (is that what you call it?) I heard about it at one of my favourite blogs here at sarahmae and she started it by joining here at Nester's 31 days. I've not put my own button anywhere (I don't have one) and I've not mentioned it anywhere but here. Perhaps I will have learned how by next years 31 days if she repeats it. Btw, if you do visit Nester's site, I found the pictures of her 'nest' totally inspiring. Really great examples of making a BEAUTIFUL home on a budget, without that budget look. Her family home is utterly gorgeous and cozy yet blatently real. And it's rented, not even like she has total free reign like we supposedly do in our mortgaged flat.
I'm trying to complete and continue in 31 days of building 2dogsandapushchair. Today is the 8th April '13 (hence the -ish) and flylady says it takes 21 days to form a new habit (along with many other people of course) so this takes me neatly to 8th May.
Please do join me, perhaps there is something you've been meaning to get started, or continued, or completed or finished? Share it in the comments and we can support each other.
Belated as it is (31 days was in October '12!), I'm going to try to think about my mission statement; why it is I'm doing this.
The biggest driving factor is to do with feeling isolated and reaching out. I'm in the UK, I'm 29 at time of posting, a Christian, married to a non-Christian, we have a daughter, two dogs and a mortgage amongst many other blessings. I actually want to stay home, rear my children (working on more, now 17 weeks pregnant, yey!), grow in God, build a beautiful home and love my wonderful husband to bits. We can't afford for me to do that, so I work full time (50hrs a week) but get to care for our daughter while I'm doing it. I consider myself a modern, traditional wife and mother.
I get amazing inspiration and support from the lovely online blogs I follow, but at the time of writing, every single one is based in America. No harm to them, they have supported me without ever knowing it, but I cannot believe I am the only woman who feels this way in the UK. Many of the women I know here, excluding some close friends and family, have subscribed to that feminist ideal that it's not their job to care for the home and children just because they are female, and certainly not their husbands, that men are lost without their women, and stupid into the bargain. This idea has so permeated our culture, that husband/male-partner/father/brother bashing is an accepted/expected form of social ettiquette all women must practice. Chauvenistic males may have beaten their wives in the past (and sadly the present), but is the emotional bashing of men by women in the modern age actually any better? The sufferagettes fought valiently for equality, not role reversal. A recent change in Bristish law has allowed that ongoing emotional abuse is now considered a form of assault similar to physical abuse. This is wonderful, but I wonder how many women realise they are already guilty of this newly defined crime against the men they love?
It's not easy, I have to physically stop and bite my tongue at times to stop myself jumping on the male bashing bandwagon when meeting with women. It's not that mine is perfect, it's that I know I'm nothing like perfect myself - and woe betide the partners of these women if they were to verbally bash their wives down the pub, yet it's acceptable the other way around? No way! No more.
After becoming too ashamed of the state of my previous blog to draw attention to it by actually posting, I've finally migrated myself over here to rid myself of that excuse. Now we shall see if an excuse is all it was!
I just spent the whole day argueing with template designer about showing my imported background, instead of playing with my LO. But the deed is done now. Stupidest fix imaginable; I'd disabled the mobile site and after spotting someone else on the forum with the same problem had found it magically fixed after they enabled the mobile site I tried it. - Taaa daaa!
I've decided to join in late with the 31 days linky party (is that what you call it?) I heard about it at one of my favourite blogs here at sarahmae and she started it by joining here at Nester's 31 days. I've not put my own button anywhere (I don't have one) and I've not mentioned it anywhere but here. Perhaps I will have learned how by next years 31 days if she repeats it. Btw, if you do visit Nester's site, I found the pictures of her 'nest' totally inspiring. Really great examples of making a BEAUTIFUL home on a budget, without that budget look. Her family home is utterly gorgeous and cozy yet blatently real. And it's rented, not even like she has total free reign like we supposedly do in our mortgaged flat.
I'm trying to complete and continue in 31 days of building 2dogsandapushchair. Today is the 8th April '13 (hence the -ish) and flylady says it takes 21 days to form a new habit (along with many other people of course) so this takes me neatly to 8th May.
Please do join me, perhaps there is something you've been meaning to get started, or continued, or completed or finished? Share it in the comments and we can support each other.
Belated as it is (31 days was in October '12!), I'm going to try to think about my mission statement; why it is I'm doing this.
The biggest driving factor is to do with feeling isolated and reaching out. I'm in the UK, I'm 29 at time of posting, a Christian, married to a non-Christian, we have a daughter, two dogs and a mortgage amongst many other blessings. I actually want to stay home, rear my children (working on more, now 17 weeks pregnant, yey!), grow in God, build a beautiful home and love my wonderful husband to bits. We can't afford for me to do that, so I work full time (50hrs a week) but get to care for our daughter while I'm doing it. I consider myself a modern, traditional wife and mother.
I get amazing inspiration and support from the lovely online blogs I follow, but at the time of writing, every single one is based in America. No harm to them, they have supported me without ever knowing it, but I cannot believe I am the only woman who feels this way in the UK. Many of the women I know here, excluding some close friends and family, have subscribed to that feminist ideal that it's not their job to care for the home and children just because they are female, and certainly not their husbands, that men are lost without their women, and stupid into the bargain. This idea has so permeated our culture, that husband/male-partner/father/brother bashing is an accepted/expected form of social ettiquette all women must practice. Chauvenistic males may have beaten their wives in the past (and sadly the present), but is the emotional bashing of men by women in the modern age actually any better? The sufferagettes fought valiently for equality, not role reversal. A recent change in Bristish law has allowed that ongoing emotional abuse is now considered a form of assault similar to physical abuse. This is wonderful, but I wonder how many women realise they are already guilty of this newly defined crime against the men they love?
It's not easy, I have to physically stop and bite my tongue at times to stop myself jumping on the male bashing bandwagon when meeting with women. It's not that mine is perfect, it's that I know I'm nothing like perfect myself - and woe betide the partners of these women if they were to verbally bash their wives down the pub, yet it's acceptable the other way around? No way! No more.
I strongly believe that men and women are made to be better at certain things, fighting our nature is misguided and only leads to unhappiness; especially for those around us and the children who lose a valid role model in the process.
The other thought strong in me right now is killing off that word 'perfect'. I feared writing my last blog because the appearance wasn't 'perfect', and then I put off writing this first post because the background wasn't 'perfect'. It's that old fear of falling short, being worthless or close to it, 'not good enough'. Waiting to write this once I have the skills to build my background, header, buttons and sidebars from scratch only reminds me that I can't do it.
There is a hard place to correspond with this wall I'm banging my head against. By jumping in too quickly on a whim I built my old blog without researching my options, being ready to write, and only trapping myself when I was too ashamed to draw attention to it and only making myself even more frustrated that I wasn't born with innate web development skills! Why are our fears always so illogical, yet hurt so keenly? I'm reading an ebook that I believe to be answering that question, will share it with you when I'm finished reading it or I'll have done all my writing today for the week.
On that note, I would proudly like to point out that nothing in this blog is my own work! Shabbyblogs and cutestblogontheblock and the designers at blogger are to thank for this. For now. (If any seasoned UK web designers are up for a swapaskill teaching me/making some elements for this blog and website in return for sewing or knitting craft/lessons/presents or Christmas wrapping do drop me an email - you never know!)
In so, in Him, until tomorrow
Sx
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